Dear 16-year-old Stef,
I want to start this letter by saying everything will work out ok. That little mantra you repeat over and over "everything happens for a reason" is going to be your rock through some difficult times to come.
High school is an odd time for you – you do so well in your studies but you never really feel like you belong. Don’t worry, once you get to university your life becomes everything you want it to be. You meet the friends that you’re going to have for a long time, you fit in and your confidence starts to blossom.
That boy you’re dating now is bad news. When everyone else tells you that and it only makes you more stubborn to ‘fix’ him. You can’t fix him, but you do meet the love of your life in a few short years. You won’t know it the first time you lay eyes on him, but that feeling comes quickly and strongly. Listen to your gut.
Mum’s going to get sick. She will be ok but you need to be strong for her and Dad. I know you’re frightened but you need to put them first. It’s going to be a tough couple of years but I promise it gets better. The whole family becomes even stronger and closer on the other side.
Always check in on your sister – she doesn’t say much but it doesn’t mean she isn’t feeling anything on the inside.
You know how you love English class more than anything else? Listen to those urges. One day you’ll have the confidence to sit down and write on your own, so start building your skills now. Don’t ever let go of your love of books.
Stop trying to change everything about yourself. YOU ARE NOT FAT. You’re athletic and strong and beautiful. Don’t listen to what others say about your body, don’t think that you’re not good enough.
You are absolutely good enough.
I also wanted to pat you on the back for doing a good job because I know you never do it yourself. Well done on:
- Never touching cigarettes
- Keeping up with your studies no matter how much you hated being labelled a nerd
- Burning the candle at both ends to achieve everything you want to achieve
Stef, it's wonderful to read something so positive. Yay for nerds and especially nerdy girls! Love the pic, by the way.ReplyDelete
Thanks Annie, I'm all for girlie nerds!! :)Delete
A lovely letter to a sweet sixteen year old Stefanie. Yes I wish I could go back and fix all the negativity around my sixteen year old self! It might make a huge difference! My love for books kept me grounded. I am never alone when I have a book, I never mind waiting, and I can disappear into another world, with friends as real to me as if I could touch them.ReplyDelete
A beautiful post Stefanie, and a lovely picture.
I'm glad you liked the post, Savannah. I think books are a great escape, no matter what age you are :)Delete
Gorgeous, Stef! You are *absolutely* good enough. :-) And "everything happens for a reason" sounds like a darn good mantra to me. Thanks for sharing.ReplyDelete
Thanks Michelle :) I'm a bit of a control freak so that mantra helps me stay calm when I feel like things are going crazy around me.Delete
What a beautiful letter, Stef! Brought a tear to my eye. Isn't funny how we girls can be so hard on ourselves!ReplyDelete
Thanks Jennifer! We do beat ourselves up way too much, it's true.Delete
Ah Stefanie...... I sense a recurring theme in all our letters to me ;-)ReplyDelete
Lovely, cried as per usual! x
Thanks Amy, I must admit I shed a few tears writing this post. Felt very cathartic though.Delete
Lovely letter Stefanie. Beautiful pic to go with it, looks like you've had that classic elegance.ReplyDelete
Thanks Lyn, that was taken from my Deb Ball (if the white dress and tiara didn't give it away) :)Delete
Loved that letter and the positive thoughts :)
Thanks Helen, I had fun writing it even though it was a bit emotional!Delete
Gorgeous post, Stef and beautiful picture :-) And yep, I cried as always...why are we so darned hard on ourselves?ReplyDelete
Thanks Louisa :) I wish I knew why we are so hard on ourselves - haven't figured that one out yet!Delete
Another lovely letter. I've loved this series, and yes, I've cried at each one too.ReplyDelete
Well done on giving yourself a pat on the back, Stefanie. You deserve it!
Thanks Claire - it was such a great series idea. I think between all the lovecats we've amassed quite a bit of wisdom :)Delete