Nov 5, 2012
Sue MacKay on Modern Families and Grandparents.
Listening to: Adele (again)
Watching: the sun going down behind the hills.
Photo: Pre grandma days.
We are so excited - that's the royal we - in this house. My step daughter is due to have our first grandchild before Christmas. Grampy Mac (my DB) is beside himself and proclaimed months ago that he was buying this child a fishing rod and a football. What if it's a girl? he was asked often. "I'm buying her a fishing rod and a football."
And his daughter is not surprised. After all, that's how he brought her up, often taking her fishing. Then I came along and introduced her to makeup and hair colour and other girlie things.
But what really intrigues me about this baby is the modern family structure. This child will have seven grandparents. Yep, seven. My stepdaughter's parents both remarried, and her partner's mother remarried so this child is blessed with loads of grandparents. I can see us being played off against one another over theyears. <g> When I grew up I had only one living grandparent and she passed away when I was seven so I had to borrow my girlfriend's grandparents. This is where I see the modern family structure as having a lot to offer.
Did I mention our friends who want to be surrogate grandparents because their children live overseas and aren't likely to move back when they have families? This child is going to be uber loved by oldies. And me.
Grandparents are awesome. They get to have all the fun times and none of the nitty gritty, every day stuff that drives parents crazy. They can be great guides through the ups and downs of growing up. They can be the people to tease and torment and yet still hand out the lollies. They can teach appreication of the "oldies".
Now don't count me in that category. I'm a very young grandmother-to-be, you understand.
I remember my grandmother very well, despite losing her at an early age. She had a green Morris Minor and lived in a tiny house in town that we visited whenever mum went to town for supplies. She loved us all unconditionally. Then there was the lolly jar, always full of Blackballs, and it didn't take much to earn one. I guess I'll have to have a jar of jet planes or jelly snakes. The problem there is that I like those lollies and I can see the grandkiddy missing out. Maybe this grandparenting lark is going to take some practise to get it right but that'll be fun too.
Do you have specialmemories of your grandmother/ Or grandfather?
A copy of Christmas With Dr Delicious is up there for someone who answers.