Finding the right person to fall in love with is hard. Chances are....well, it's all about chance, isn't it? You choose to work at a particular place, eat at a particular restaurant, go to a particular party...and you meet your soul mate. Chances were, if you had chosen not to go out that night you would have never met.
Falling in love is a science and an art. It's a compromise. Keeping that love going over decades is nothing short of a tiny miracle.
I was intrigued by this article I read that apparently gives the single person a leg up on finding The One...or for couples to help them find out if what they have is love. Have a look and tell me what you think. Is it so easy that you can KNOW after answering 36 questions?
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2909261/The-36-questions-guaranteed-make-fall-love-Two-couples-soulmates-taking-psychologists-quiz.html
The questionnaire got me thinking about one of my last year's favourite books about a man with...challenges, who wants to meet the perfect woman, so he creates a questionnaire for potential wives...hilarious book and great concept. The follow up The Rosie Effect is great too.
What do you think? Is there a secret formula for falling in love?
Hi Louisa. I'm intrigued by the idea of a formula. I think though, that there's something about being open-minded and not cut off from the idea of love that helps. As for staying in love - definitely compromise! Personally, I love the idea of love at first sight!
ReplyDeleteI love it when someone has a list of criteria for a potential partner and then they fall for someone who matches none of the criteria. I've seen it happen.
ReplyDeleteI think it comes down to something in the air. We think we know what we want, then we fall in love and hey, this guy's not quite what we planned on. Definitely believe in love at first.
ReplyDeleteGiven I'm still single, not sure what the way to fall in love is. I do think whether we know it or not, we have a subconscious list that we compare people with.
ReplyDeleteI think there are so many different reasons why people fall in love it can start of as friendship it can be love at first sight or lust first but the bottom line is a couple nee to be able to get on with each other there has to be understanding caring and love :)
ReplyDeleteHave Fun
Helen
I think it's about finding someone who wants the same fundamental things as you. Sure, you might like different music, different food and have different hobbies but if you both want the same things out of life that's how you know you can go the distance. By focusing on these things rather than superficial, people have a better chance of not passing 'the one' by.
ReplyDeleteWow, what an interesting questionnaire!!!
ReplyDeleteI don't think there's a secret formula. I looked across a crowded room and fell in love! But I do think you have to have enough in common and similar values for a relationship to work long-term.
Gobsmacked by the questionnaire, Louisa! I'm not a great believer in a secret formula for falling in love...but I do believe in love at first sight, in the importance of shared values, and being open to the idea of falling in love. That said, I love "List Romances" where the hero or heroine has a lists of must haves for the future partner, which the love interest obviously fails to meet spectacularly--such fun!
ReplyDeleteCount me as gobsmacked, too, Louisa... and fascinated. I'd love to know how the original two participants were chosen. Were they chosen as a likely combination? If they'd met under different circumstances, would they have hit it off. So many questions!
ReplyDeleteThat book sounds like a fun read too - might have to add it to my TBR!