Sue MacKay asks
Love At First Sight?
Or is it lust at first encounter?
As a romance writer I find that my hero and heroine always have that immediate "something" happening between them from the very first time they have any type of contact. And in our stories this is always the beginning of true love. Of course this is essential to writing a book that people want to read. We don't have the time and space to have lead-ins to our 'on-paper' relationships.
But is this how it happens in real life? Do you answer the phone at the office and the unknown, very sexy male voice at the other end instantly brings to mind tangled sheets?
Or when you walk into a crowded bar and clash gazes with the hot guy on the other side of the room do you instantly think of - well, tangled sheets?
Is this feeling that grips us love or lust?
I wonder if all couples start their relationships with a sudden bolt from the blue when they meet for the very first time. Is this what makes that one person out of many special for you? Maybe some couples start out as friends and learn to love each other, finding that X factor ingredient along the way.
We all need that special something that makes us love one particular person and want to join our lives with theirs. It is the cream on the pav.
Personally I can't imagine going to a bar after work with my colleagues, ordering a wine, then taking my "ideal mate" shopping list out of my handbag and studying the crowd. I did certainly look around for someone interesting when I was single but most times there were never sparks in the air.
It was the sound of my DB's laughter that first caught my attention. I just had to meet him and immediately found an excuse to go downstairs to the boss's office where he was. I was drawn to him right from the get go, and even did something I'd never done before - I asked him on a date.
So what about you? Did you know immediately you connected with your partner that he was the one? Or did you take time to find that special something with him?
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No, I didn't know immediately.
ReplyDeleteTruth be told, I loved DH before marriage, but I fell IN love with him afterward. Many years later.
Go figure....
Wow, Laney, you've blown my theory out of the water. But your story is lovely. Just goes to show how different relationships really can be.
ReplyDeleteVery interesting post. It took a while.
ReplyDeleteYes, apologies for that but we were unexpectedly stuck in Christchurch which is a four and a half hour drive from home and I couldn't access the site.
ReplyDeleteHi Sue - great post. I'm a firm believer in love at first sight . . . well, maybe second sight. On our second date I knew I'd met the man I'd marry :)
ReplyDeleteI think you can have attraction at first sight, but the love builds over time.
ReplyDeleteHi Helen, I bet that X factor was hanging in the air between you both on your first date. Sometimes people are coy about their reactions at first though.
ReplyDeleteMarybelle, you're right, the love does keep building over time.
ReplyDeleteOoh, Sue, I love that bolt from the blue that hits a hero and heroine when they first meet... But I love the slow simmer romances too, where the H/h don't actually notice each other's attractiveness until they get to know each other better. Then they fall REALLY hard. Oh, happy sighs!
ReplyDeleteHi Sue,
ReplyDeleteGreat post. At first glance there is attraction but love happens when we get to really know each other and accept the good as well as the not -so- good about the other person!
Hey, Michelle, you're so right. That slow simmer is so good, especially when they do fall.
ReplyDeleteHi Laura,
ReplyDeleteLovee definitely is about accepting the good and the not-so-good, isn't it? I still think that initial zing gets it all started. But maybe I'm biased because that's what happened to me.
Met when I was just 16 and he was 18. Big crush from Day 1, married 3 years later, been - and still - married 38 years, 3 kids and 3 gorgeous grandies later! Don't know where that time went - but I'm glad it was with him :-)
ReplyDeletePS - Sue, have just finished 2 of your books - you are one awesome writer! AWESOME, I say!!! :-)
ReplyDeleteClare, I love that your big crush became your life love. I always find it so wonderful when people meet the love of their life and how it lightens everything about them.
ReplyDeleteThanks muchly for the endorsement, too.
Sue, that is SO romantic - you fell in love with your husband-to-be's laugh. Or, is that in lust? =)
ReplyDeleteFirst time I met my dh, I was drawn to his shoulders. And then his smile, and then his voice. Still love all three.
Sue, that's such a lovely story about you and your DB. So glad it worked out for you!
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