Sue MacKay asks
Love At First Sight?
Or is it lust at first encounter?
As a romance writer I find that my hero and heroine always have that immediate "something" happening between them from the very first time they have any type of contact. And in our stories this is always the beginning of true love. Of course this is essential to writing a book that people want to read. We don't have the time and space to have lead-ins to our 'on-paper' relationships.
But is this how it happens in real life? Do you answer the phone at the office and the unknown, very sexy male voice at the other end instantly brings to mind tangled sheets?
Or when you walk into a crowded bar and clash gazes with the hot guy on the other side of the room do you instantly think of - well, tangled sheets?
Is this feeling that grips us love or lust?
I wonder if all couples start their relationships with a sudden bolt from the blue when they meet for the very first time. Is this what makes that one person out of many special for you? Maybe some couples start out as friends and learn to love each other, finding that X factor ingredient along the way.
We all need that special something that makes us love one particular person and want to join our lives with theirs. It is the cream on the pav.
Personally I can't imagine going to a bar after work with my colleagues, ordering a wine, then taking my "ideal mate" shopping list out of my handbag and studying the crowd. I did certainly look around for someone interesting when I was single but most times there were never sparks in the air.
It was the sound of my DB's laughter that first caught my attention. I just had to meet him and immediately found an excuse to go downstairs to the boss's office where he was. I was drawn to him right from the get go, and even did something I'd never done before - I asked him on a date.
So what about you? Did you know immediately you connected with your partner that he was the one? Or did you take time to find that special something with him?
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